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How to slap self-doubt in the face and get stuff done

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I just got off the phone with a student in my BOSS program. She needed tough love.

She was running around in cerebral circles thinking of all the things she should be doing, could be doing, to move her speaking business forward and then – just as quickly – coming up with reasons why they wouldn’t work.

It was like debating her alter-ego. Good luck with that.

Sure, healthy doubt is a good thing.

We SHOULD be questioning that start-up investment or taking up kite surfing in your 50’s. Those doubts are good.

But, doubting your VALUE, or ability to get stuff done. Not good.

Here’s a quick test to assess your self-doubt:

How many of these have you done in the last 30 days?

Fun: Thought of something fun you could do, but just as quickly talked yourself out of it.

Work: Avoided a tough conversation because you doubted yourself.

Life: Read about someone’s “amazing” life and came up with reasons why you’re different.

Achievement: Admired someone’s clothes, car, house, spouse and thought they were somehow “better” than you.

How many have you done? I’ve done all 4 (how do you think I came up with the list?).

Doubt is healthy. It’s like fear of heights or taste buds – they keep us safe. But if you’re frustrated thinking life is passing you by, you need a show-down with doubt and to pull your pistol first.

Have a show-down with doubt and pull your pistol first. Click To Tweet

Start with what you want.

Have One Thing

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“What’s the One Thing you can do this week such that by doing it everything else would be easier or unnecessary?”

The average person has 83 things on their To-Do list (I made that up) – that’s a lot of junk cluttering up your mental math—you need to have One Thing.

In their book The One Thing, Gary Keller and Jay Papasan ask a deadly question “What’s the One Thing you can do this week such that by doing it everything else would be easier or unnecessary?”

Do you get that?

The challenge they are making is for you to drill down through layers and layers of time-sucking drivel to get to One Thing that moves the needle. Get it done, and then go for the next one. And not just any One Thing – it’s the One Thing that makes other things better.

But, first you have to do one other thing first. Stop doing meaningless crap.

You know what I mean: the stuff that fills your minutes and, by the end of the day, you have no idea what you did to fill your minutes. Like checking email every 7 minutes, shuffling paper, rewriting lists, checking Facebook and deciding between a colon and semi-colon on a report most people nobody will read.

That crap.

Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least. - Goethe Click To Tweet

There’s lots of ways to do that: in this post I explain how I block time. In this post I share 4 ways to reduce overwhelm and get your To-Do’s back in control.

Once you’re willing to get focusses, it’s time for the fun part – learn by doing.

Learn by Doing

When it comes to procrastination, there’s a debilitatingly vicious cycle that goes like this:

Monday “Call Sherry and give feedback about her work”

“I really should call her up and deal with this.” (tiny voice: ‘I’m not a ‘goals’ type’)

“It could be ugly – after all we have history.” (tiny voice: ‘I hate conflict’)

“I’m not sure I want to do it now.” (tiny voice: ‘I’m a procrastinator’)

“I’ll do it tomorrow when I’m fresh.”

Tuesday: repeat the same conversation.

One week later: repeat the same conversation.

(not-so tiny voice ‘I’m a loser!’)

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It’s like watching Braveheart over and over and thinking it will end well for William Wallace (it doesn’t.)

Nothing happens except you become more entrenched in unhelpful negativity. It’s like watching Braveheart over and over and thinking it will end well for William Wallace (it doesn’t.)

The antidote for self-doubt is to do something – anything.

The anecdote for self-doubt is to do something - anything. Click To Tweet

Here’s some examples:

  • Last week we needed to clear out Sarah’s office. I’d been debating selling her desk, packing up files to take home and basically putting it off. Sarah came in for a meeting. At the end of the meeting we quickly discussed options and in about 20 minutes moved her desk, phone and computer into my office, boxed some files and we were done. Time on To-Do list: 6 weeks.
  • This week I needed a new graphic artist for a small job that’s overdue. In 30 minutes I’d gone on Upwork, copy/pasted the same invitation to 4 artists who applied for one of my previous job postings, had a call with one (April lives in Georgia), agreed on terms and hired her. Time on To-Do list: 4 weeks.
  • Yesterday I took 8 minutes (I timed it), just before running out the door, to load a box of books I don’t want into a banker box and haul it to the car to go the used book store. Time on To-Do list: 3 weeks.

Sure, you might have bigger jobs you’ve been putting off like a Tiger you need to face or finishing that book proposal or asking for a raise. Life has no end of mountains we need to climb.

Our job is to slap self-doubt in the face, get focussed on One Thing that will get us closer to the summit and always take that next step.

What’s the One Thing you can do this week such that by doing it everything else would be easier or unnecessary?

[Tell me in the comments – I want to know!]

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About Hugh Culver

Speaker, author, athlete and founder of BlogWorks. I speak and write about getting stuff done and the art of growing younger.

Categories: Blog, Expert/Speaker, Habits, Productivity Tagged: brain, effective, entrepreneur, habits, procrastination, productivity, progress, projects, resistance, self-doubt

Comments

  1. Kevin Rempel says

    April 23, 2017 at 6:58 am

    Thanks Hugh. Just that refresher about “moving the needle” really resonates with me today. Always love your blog posts! Very simple and practical. 🙂

    Kevin

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    • Hugh Culver says

      April 23, 2017 at 7:21 am

      Thanks Kevin – it’s always easiest when I write from personal experience!!

      Reply
  2. Diane says

    April 29, 2017 at 8:28 am

    Dear Hugh,

    Although I think you meant to use the word “antidote” rather than “anecdote”, the concept certainly rings true and is something I’m trying to apply every day. Thank you. (“The antidote for self-doubt is to do something – anything.”)

    Reply
    • Hugh Culver says

      April 29, 2017 at 10:19 am

      Thanks Diane-good catch!

      Reply

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