It’s that time of year again – the days are shorter, malls are full, power drills are on sale and your year is winding up.
How are you feeling?
Optimistic? Fearful? Regretful? Confused? Exhausted?
I’m feeling all those emotions and then some – I want to turn a fresh slate and start clean next year, but…
The reality is I’m one list away from repeating 80% of the mistakes, bad decisions and procrastinations I made this year.
In short: I’m screwed.
Sure, I can blame it on our wiring—we’re all predisposed to see what we want to see. If I think I’m a shitty planner, or prone to procrastinate, or perennially overwhelmed. Well, that’s what I’m going to see more of.
Psychologists (who have nothing better to do than name things) call it cognitive bias – I call it being screwed.
Confession: In January I wrote the goal: “Publish book about becoming a speaker”. Guess how much I got done.
Nada, squat, zero, zippo – nothing.
I could write a book on speaking over a weekend. It wouldn’t be great, but give me a month for research, interviews, writing, and polishing and I’d have a pretty presentable piece.
I didn’t even create an outline.
What about you? What did you plan on doing, but didn’t even start?
Well, dear reader, as we get ready to put a bow on this year I want to share 5 steps I’ll be taking to break my deja vu time trap and make next year my best yet.
Follow along if you really want change (or go back to playing Tetris).
We start with a review.
1. REVIEW
This week, I was in a bookstore marvelling at shelves full of shrink-wrapped calendars and day planners. I thought of all those goals and plans that get carefully recorded (“I WILL lose 15lbs by March”) only to be replaced in a month or, worse yet, ignored all together.
I’m not sure what’s the perfect solution, but I know it’s not about new journals and making lists.
It has to start with a review.
Not some analytical, pocket-protector, Excel spreadsheet with weighted-averages – just an honest look at priorities.
A great question to ask is: “Moving forward what do I need to stop, start, or change to get what I want?”
If you want to know more about completing a review for yourself or even teams, read this post.
We also need to celebrate.
2. CELEBRATE
I don’t celebrate enough. You?
Celebration is good for the soul, for your troops – it’s also an incentive.
When my brother Dan (I was a minor partner) sold Whitewater Adventures – one of the first whitewater rafting companies in Canada – we celebrated! Not only did we arrive in limos to the oh-so-austere Brock House, in Vancouver, Dan had commissioned silver belt buckles with the company logo for all staff.
That was a celebration.
Was the expense and effort absolutely necessary? Of course not. But that night was invaluable.
We’re all wired for rewards and even a little celebration pre-programs us to want more. It’s the reason why couch potatoes will lace up and train for a charity walk or why we save for a vacation or new car.
This week, take time to celebrate – it could be nothing more than a few minutes going through your calendar and recognizing your hard work and all the wins you created.
Next, forgive.
3. FORGIVE
In most cases I’m my own worst enemy. Okay, in all cases I’m my own worst enemy. This applies to letting go.
I love to put a death-grip on misery and let it suck me down a toilet bowl of lost dreams. Even though I’m the only one in this pity party, I have a hard time shutting it down.
I love to put a death-grip on misery and let it suck me down a toilet bowl of lost dreams. Click To TweetThe hard truth is our mistakes are fodder for a better decision. “Good judgment comes from experience,” says American author Rita Mae Brown, “and experience comes from bad judgment.”
Without our screw ups life would be one sad party.
So, what mis-steps, failures, or nonstarters are you hanging onto?
- Business?
- Relationships?
- Health?
- Fitness?
- Time?
- Money?
There are 2 types of forgiveness:
Forgiveness with resentment and blame. This is a disaster of raised cortisol levels, chronic stress, depression, weight gain and heart disease. Nasty.
And then there’s forgiveness with release: You choose to move on without baggage.
“Forgiveness is the fragrance the violet leaves on the heel that crushed it.” Mark Twain Click To TweetI need to let it go before I can get real.
4. GET REAL
Most people over estimate what they can get done in a year and underestimate what they can get done in a day. The trick is to get real.
Most people over estimate what they can get done in a year and underestimate what they can get done in a day. Click To TweetWhen I sat down to write Give Me a Break I was nervous as hell.
I’d never written anything longer than 1,000 words and I wanted this to be my magnum opus. On paper I mapped out a huge project with support staff, promotions, an agent and off-the-chart sales.
The only problem was, I still had to write the damn book.
How many times have you made something so big you never get started? Like that house renovation, weight loss plan, business start-up or transforming a moribund relationship?
I do it all the time and it leads to, well, nothing.
So I got real, and just wrote the book. Once I got momentum on just that one goal, it only took 2 months to get a rough draft. It didn’t smell very good, but it was a start.
Only then did I start to seek out editors, get printing quotes and start to think about promotion. Two months more and it was in my hands, in stores and making sales.
Creating a big, detailed list could just be your excuse for not getting started.
Creating a big, detailed list could be an excuse for not getting started. Click To Tweet5. DON’T BE A DONKEY
In the story of Buridan’s Ass (French philosopher Jean Buridan, 1300-1358), a donkey finds himself halfway between a pile of hay and a bucket of water. The donkey looks left at the delicious hay, then looks right at the thirst quenching water. Left, right, left, right, left, right.
But no movement.
Because the donkey can’t think about the future, it’s stuck in the present – torn between going for the hay or going for the water. So it does nothing and eventually keels over from thirst and starvation.
Don’t be a donkey.
You’re always better to do something, mess it up, learn and move forward than to be a donkey and do nothing. Irish novelist, James Joyce, put it more poetically: “Mistakes are the portals of discovery.”
“Mistakes are the portals of discovery” James Joyce Click To Tweet
DO THIS
You might be reading this and thinking it’s old-hat—you’ve nailed the planning process. Or you might be thinking: “Holly crap it’s like he’s in my head!”
Either way, do me a favour.
Tell me in the comments what you’re doing about planning for next year. Are you boycotting lists all together? Are you trying a new process? Maybe you’re doing nothing.
I want to know – tell me in the comments. Thanks and big hugs.
Good thoughts Hugh.
One nugget I picked up this past year that helped me avoid the deju vu time trap is changing the software and system I use in my planning. This pushed me out of my organizational ruts, forced me to think differently and enabled me to prioritize (the real job of task management) much more quickly.
Thanks Daren! That’s an interesting twist on changing your office or buying a new journal. It sounds like it forces you to pay attention and maybe be more intentional.
I’m currently doing many things but I can not find the real purpose, it’s like “I do not know what to spect about my future, I do not know myself”. I need to make a list with priorities and then do something, I think that is a good start.
Esteban I hear you. I find it’s worth the time to get away and start by stripping off all the low-value distractions that are not moving you ahead. Sometimes I stop doing something just because I don’t like it (even if it’s making me money).
I tend to let the urgent and the mundane consume my time. Next year I have an opportunity to adjust my daily schedule and plan to make the most of it.
Jared – this is the ultimate challenge! I think most would also agree that we have to watch for the false-urgents (emails, phone calls, computer alerts).
I find myself doing so much but at the end of the year, I have not achieved my targets!!! i will use your tips to plan better for the coming year, especially getting my priorities right.
Thanks Pauline – I hope you can jump on our webinar Dec 1 – it’s all about that. https://hughculver.leadpages.co/last-30-days-webinar/
For 2017 I am keeping my goals few and meaningful. Guarding my time and energy by practicing the art of what NOT to do. Opting out of meetings where I don’t get or add value. Unsubscribing from every junk email list or unused service I can. Cleaning out my office and closets. Simplifying my budget.
My objective fro 2017 is to commit to less, think and reflect more, enjoy time just being with family, and be a more impactful person as a result.
Jeff – this is great. I especially love two parts: 1) be a more impactful person and 2) that you didn’t unsupscribe from my list!
Just got a chance to read this blog now Hugh, loved it! Look forward to reading your book. Wishing you a great year!
Thanks Donna – I’m excited about this year and what we all can create!
I am taking one thing a day to improve my goal of making it to the Olympics as well as supporting my family.