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Why you should never, ever use these 15 repetitive redundancies in business, romance, or life.

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I detest limp language. You know, the kind of sentence when you’re not sure what the person means, or even if they mean what they said.

It happens so frequently, I’ve kept a list. I’ll get to the list in just a minute.

But, first let’s look inside the brain.

YOU HAVE TWO BRAINS

As you know, the brain has two operating systems: the conscious (which is saying right now “Gee, I knew that already”), and the unconscious (which is saying “Wow! That Culver is one smart dude!”). Actually, that’s not true – the unconscious is feeling either pain or pleasure. If you hear what you like, unconsciously you are drawn to the person and their message. The opposite is also, unfortunately, true.

When we speak we often focus only on the conscious brain. You’ve seen it happen. The Ph.D in a rumpled suit, stands behind the lectern, and bores us with dribble about polyunsaturated fats and triglycerides. They are talking to the conscious brain.

Meanwhile, the unconscious brain is down the hall in the bathroom.

DENDRITES NODDING IN AGREEMENT

The trick to speaking with influence is to get both the conscious, thinking brain, and the unconscious, critical brain both nodding their dendrites in agreement.

I first learned this lesson from my father. I grew up in a family of  nine children (please send money) and my father had little patience for limp images_key 3language. He was a captain in the army, chartered accountant by trade, and task master when it came to language. 

And his lexicon was verbose. 

Didn’t know the meaning of paucity, perpetuity, or petulant? “Get the dictionary” he would command. (Gen Y readers, click here to see a picture of a dictionary). And we would go running.

My second lesson came in graduate school. Any belief I had any skill at composing a thought or presenting an argument was slammed up against a wall of red ink edits and large chunks of text “X’d” out, one page at a time. Exorcising redundancy became a valued sport.

LESSONS FROM THE STAGE

My third lesson came as a speaker. In a typical speech, depending on how long it takes the Emcee to thank sponsors and stumble through my intro, I deliver about 8,000 words (55 minutes X 150 words per minute). That’s $1 a word. Nice work, if you can get it.

My job, on stage, it to get the unconscious mind leaning in, and the conscious mind alert and learning. Any rabbit hole or flagrant phraseology (like that one) alerts the unconscious, danger is lurking. Meanwhile, the conscious mind also goes on alert and stops learning.

One way to avoid rabbit holes when speaking is to step around words and idioms that are redundant, rhetorical, or completely ridiculous (I wrote more about using clear communication in my post “Clear Communication: why you need to use straight talk to get what you want“).

Now, on with my list.

REDUNDANT, RHETORICAL, AND THE RIDICULOUS

If you drop these dead-weight words and idioms from your language you will immediately have more impact (in brackets are the names of friends and colleagues who generously shared their favourite example and pet peeve):

1.  “Honestly…” / “In all honestly…” REALLY!??!?! Have you NOT been honest so far in this conversation?

2.  “Truth be told…” WARNING! I’ve been listening to lies and now the good stuff is coming.

3.  “Let me be perfectly clear….” As my friend Patrcia Katz put it, “This is usually uttered by politicians and frequently followed by BAFFLEGAB.”

4.  “In my opinion…” (Janet Matthews) – THANK YOU – and exactly who’s opinion were you sharing a minute ago?

5.  “Opinions are my own.” (Frithjof Petscheleit) – WHAT A RELIEF! Here I was thinking you had gone to the “Opinion vending machine”, but these REALLY are your opinions – now that’s special.

Clutter is the disease of American writing. We are a society strangling in unnecessary words, circular constructions, pompous frills and meaningless jargon.” William Zinsser, On Writing Well

6.  “I may be wrong but…” or “This may sound stupid but…” (Kaye Parker) – YES! You’re right, it already sounds stupid. 

7.  “Let me say…” or “For the record…” (Lisa White) – THANK YOU Raymond Burr! I didn’t know court was in session. 

8.  “Just saying….” (Darcia Fenton) – FASCINATING. You feel the need to tell us those were words we just heard. Thanks for that. 

9.  “Basically…” (Terri Knox) and (Jan Enns) What does that even mean? ARE YOU so sophisticated y’all gotta dumb it down for lil’ ol’ me? 

…You should say what you mean,” the March Hare went on.

“I do,” Alice hastily replied; “at least – at least I mean what I say – that’s the same thing, you know.”

“Not the same thing a bit!” said the Hatter. “You might just as well say that ‘I see what I eat’ is the same thing as ‘I eat what I see!’”

10. “I would like to…” or “I want to…” (Alice Van Blokland) – GREAT! We’ll will just sit here and wait while you and your dark side fight it out. Let us know how that turns out. 

11. “That being said…” (Sharon Evans) – HERE’S A TIP: Drop “That being said” from your sentences and we will now assume you exited from the good end of high school. 

12. Starting a sentence with “So…” (Peter Koning). SAVE YOUR BREATH and get to the point.

13. “Irregardless” (Nigel Brown) – for once and for all, the word is “REGARDLESS” and, in most cases, redundant. 

14. “With all due respect…” (Lesley-Anne Evans) – FACE IT – prefacing your insult with that line does not get you off the hook – I still won’t like it. 

15. “What comes to mind…” – WOW! Are you saying everything else out of your mouth DIDN’T come from your mind? Wait here while I call Ripley’s.

A FINAL TIP 

When in doubt, drop it. Most of the examples of above can simply be dropped from the sentence and the message is improved. I’ll leave you with a 100-year-old tip from one of the masters of language, Mark Twain:

Substitute damn every time you’re inclined to write ‘very’; your editor will delete it and the writing will be just as it should be.”

Now, over to you. Which one off this list are you going to stop using (and why)? Tell me in the comments below.

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Comments

  1. Julia says

    November 9, 2014 at 10:04 am

    I often use “So” when teaching. Usually when moving from one PPT slide to the next. This week I’ll attempt to eliminate it from my lectures and see if I can get my students’ to start using more of their unconscious brains.

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    • Hugh Culver says

      November 9, 2014 at 3:38 pm

      Thanks Julia! Good for you – get the students going early and it will serve them forever.

      Reply
  2. Sarah says

    November 10, 2014 at 8:15 am

    Can you please add “moving forward” to your list? That’s how time works and to use it in a sentence is filler and makes me crazy!!!!!

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    • Hugh Culver says

      August 28, 2016 at 6:14 am

      Just saw that one. Moving forward, I will check my messages more frequently 🙂

      Reply
  3. Glenda Standeven says

    November 11, 2014 at 10:26 pm

    Great tips … ‘damn’ useful all of them (thank you Mark Twain!) And thank you Hugh.
    I’m sure at some point in past presentations I have said, “I want to …” but will now switch it out to something more succint like, “I will … “

    Reply
    • Hugh Culver says

      November 18, 2014 at 10:43 pm

      Nice! Thanks Glenda. I find I notice straight language more after writing this. I will…has some punch to it!

      Reply
  4. Barb says

    November 12, 2014 at 11:37 am

    “Quite Frankly” is another one that bugs me….. as soon as this crops up, I find I have an immediate distrust of the person speaking. 🙂

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    • Hugh Culver says

      November 18, 2014 at 10:40 pm

      Thanks Barb – I’m with you on that one (quite frankly)

      Reply
  5. Jan says

    November 17, 2014 at 9:56 am

    “At this point in time” is another. It’s either “At this point…” or “At this time…” Thanks for the great information Hugh.

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    • Hugh Culver says

      November 18, 2014 at 10:49 pm

      Thanks Jan. Sounds like a second list is needed!

      Reply
  6. Rowena List says

    November 18, 2014 at 5:52 pm

    These are good points. You have me thinking as to which ones I might use.
    Some others are
    Like, right and okay.

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    • Hugh Culver says

      November 18, 2014 at 10:39 pm

      Thanks Rowena! It’s looking like I’ll need a second blog on this one.

      Reply
  7. LauraVonKa says

    July 25, 2015 at 9:57 am

    Hmmm, I guess I am a big culprit here, as English is not my first language I tend to do all the mistakes you have mentioned above haha. OK, maybe I miss one or two 🙂 .But good to know I could annoy born English speakers with my mannerisms.

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    • Hugh Culver says

      July 26, 2015 at 9:30 pm

      Too funny! Annoy away, we deserve it. Actually, your English is looking pretty awesome!

      Reply
  8. Transmute! says

    March 27, 2016 at 7:01 am

    I never want to hear “It is what it is” again. Is there anything that ISN’T what it is?

    Reply
  9. Serita Jebbett says

    July 19, 2017 at 12:08 pm

    Incredible points. Sound arguments. Keep up the great work.

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